Saturday, December 20, 2008
The surprising kindness of girls
I have never had a lot of female friends growing up. I seem to relate better to guys, to enjoy their company more. I would grow tired of the gossiping or petty cat fighting involved with female friendships and seek solace in the uncomplicated male friendships that allowed me to be sarcastic and sometimes crude without them passing judgment on me. But, lately, although I have been getting my fair share of Bug and Jon time (friends from way back) I have also come to realize that I have some really cool female friends. I have seen over the past month, that when girls are called upon to support their female friends they can do quite an amazing job. Whether it is Pang going for walks with me or Erika scratching my back and kissing my head as I laze about at work or Chels telling me how much she admires me - even looks up to me - or Tess remembering me in her prayers. Its kinda cool. It's the feeling I had in middle school and high school of having girls I could talk to, hang out with, or shake it on the dance floor with, but without all that silly teenager stuff I remember. And sometimes there is the surprising kindness of girls you don't even know - like the girl at the bar the other night who when I introduced myself replied with "wow you're beautiful." Just something I thought of.